I can't decide where to live.?

I separated from my husband some time ago and he stayed in the family home. Now we have agreed to get things moving and he is moving out. I don't know whether to buy him out and go back and live there (it's a beautiful house in a very pretty location close to the beach but the house is 15 years old and he has neglected to look after it)



My second option is that i can buy a brand new house which is just as beautiful but close to a small town with a football field beyond and is not situated in a pretty and secluded area as is the first house. I don't know which to choose. Both houses are very similar except the first house by the beach is in a mess and needs upgrading and the second house is perfect inside but the area is not as appealing.



Bearing in mind the first house has bad memories %26amp; negative associations. Could i ignore this and be happy %26amp; settled there, or would the 'ghosts' haunt me? The second house would be a fresh start.

Which would you choose? Thanks so much xI can't decide where to live.?
Make it a happy house... and work on it...



Decorate it out and inside...



Put a pond with some fishes...



Get a dog.



Paint the house
I say stay in your house and work on it. Near the beach will always increase over time. Not to mention your kids will prefer not to move.



Whether or not the "ghosts" haunt you is up to you. It is sad that this is happening.I can't decide where to live.?
I would choose the house by the beach. Beach front property is always in demand, and the home will appreciate in value. If you move back in and decide later you'd rather live somewhere else, you'll have no trouble finding a buyer for the home.



If you have the knowledge and/or can hire help, give the house a facelift, and it won't feel like the same house. Plant new shrubbery, fix up the house inside and out, and paint over those negative memories!
You need a fresh start, but can you make one by working on the house by the beach? Repaint everything in cheery colors. If your kids don't have any ghosts in that house, work on it together and build new memories. If they do suffer from the same ghosts that may haunt you, it's time for a change in venue.I can't decide where to live.?
Your current house could turn into a project for you, do it up yourself, giving you a purpose, a new look to your home and the improvements done by you may get rid of the negative vibes you have been having???
In Naas county Kildare Ireland.
That my dear is up to you. Do you see the pain when you walk through the house? If not, go back, the beach property will increase in value faster than the other. If you are capable pf making the repairs needed. Maybe a coat of paint and some different furniture will make it fresh to you.



Just please remember that the problems you experienced there were not the fault of the house itself, but those living in it.



Do not dwell on the place in which you dwelled, instead clear your dome and build yourself a home.



Yoda out
You need a fresh start. New house. New life. So, its the second house.



Everyone I know including myself except that I wasn't married. A new house, %26amp; life is best for your own well being. It makes you stronger, happier, more independent person.
15 years is very little as far as house age is concerned. As i live near the beach i would say stay near the beach and renovate your house. When thinking about your ex in the house too, just concentrate on all the arguments and problems. that will help you cope with any haunting feeling.
if i were you i would make a brand new start in a new home in a new location with a great new positive start in life,

move on and be happy merry xmas and a happy new year
I would go for the fresh start myself, if you can and get out from under the property. Fifteen years can really take a toll on a house and could be very expensive to get it back on tack.

Having gone though a divorce, I felt a need to get on with my life and leave the other behind. If you aren't certain you could always rent out the property and try the new area out to be sure. Good not to jump into anything to quickly after something so stressful, and give yourself some time.