I am soooo angry and I don't know what to do.....?

My children frequently play football, hide and seek, etc in the common area of our housing development with other neighborhood kids. A week ago we received a letter in the mail from our condo association stating that neighbor(s) are complaining that my kids are a nuisance to the neighborhood based on the condominium agreement because they keep too much noise. Granted their were 2 brothers that would play rough and be noisy, but I always called them on it and when it got to the point that they were not listening, I told them not to come back and play at our house. It is a community area and I have no more right to keep them from it than anyone else, so they kept coming back. Those are NOT my kids and leading up to the complaint I would not allow my child to play with them any longer so they haven't come around. It was also insinuated that I am a non-attentive parent who doesn't supervise my children. I am very attentive and keep a watchful eye on my kids so this was particularly hurtful.I know this complaint and insult was made by a particular neighbor who has falsely accused me and my children of things in the past and before, to keep the peace, we just quietly acquiesced. But enough is enough. This woman has gone too far and not only that, but she has recruited another neighbor to "her side", who actually taught my son to play football and would frequently play with him before this complaint. Now he doesn't eve talk to us anymore, let alone my son who actually looked up to him. All because of this person who apparently has no tolerance for children and has created this wedge in what used to be a friendly outgoing neighborhood. None of the other neighbors complain. I really am tempted to throw eggs at her house or slash her tires, but that would only get me in trouble and would not solve the problem. But I am mad and frustrated and want to know if I have any legal recourse. Or any suggestions to help me redeem my name in the neighborhood again and not feel shut into my own house by a woman who probably needs to move to a senior community. Please help.I am soooo angry and I don't know what to do.....?
First of all it seems like someone has become judge and jury against you. If I'm not mistaken, there should be something in all the paper work of the housing agreement that if something like this came up, you could ask for a major meeting from the head committee. If I were you, I would seek legal advice because someone has falsely accuesed you of stuff , that's deflimation of charactor, and number two, it's causing you and your family emotional distress. I'm almost 100% sure there are laws on the books about that. Don't try and outshout them, let the law do it. People like this will keep it up until the judge steps in. Sorry but that's the way some people are. I'd show them that you know you have a right to live in peace no matter who they are. That goes for their friends also. This is the only way you can deal with these kind of people because all they are doing is being grown up bullies.
Send a letter back.I am soooo angry and I don't know what to do.....?
just relax
You should seek out an anger management program for yourself.I am soooo angry and I don't know what to do.....?
Your neighbor pays rent and expects things to be reasonably quiet. If your children are being loud, she has every right to complain. Keep your children quiet and the problem will go away.

Sorry...but thats just the way apartments/condos work. You have to respect and be courteous of your neighbors; as you would want them to be of you.
If I were an administrator there and you told me that story I'd get it. I'd make sure you had a fair stage to say these things to everyone involved.



That's my suggestion. Can you talk to someone higher up who may be fair? Sounds like some of the people who are against you need hobbies.
"I really am tempted to throw eggs at her house or slash her tires" Immature much?
Just keep on doing your thing. As long as your children are not hurting others or the community area, you're not doing anything wrong as a parent.
Egg her house and accuse her enemy. After all you just have to pressure wash it off. Or you can cuss her out saying you have no rights to call in a complaint they are just kids, blah blah blah.
First of all - I'm sorry that you feel so threatened by this compliant. You know full well that your children were not the culprit, so you should feel happy that they AREN'T crazy!!



Next, act like an adult. Set an example for your children - egging the house or slashing tires shouldn't even come into the equation! Legally you can't really do much except talk to your condo association directly. Video tape these kids and prove that your kids (1) aren't making excessive noise and (2) aren't the ones going crazy. All it takes is one neighborhood complaining to give you a headache.



My advice? Talk to this neighbor. Does s/he sleep during the day? What is their definition of "quiet?" Do they know the difference between your children and the rougher neighborhood children? Figure out a solution and see if you can come to a conclusion.



I assure you that the entire neighborhood does NOT look down on you.
Your children are loud, people complained. Either get over it or move. I personally think you're over reacting.
One of the things I have noticed in life, is it is hard to be enemies with someone you invite to your home and try to become friends; maybe - invite her to T, and get to know her; then after a while, talk with her about your concerns and invite hre to share her concerns with you... maybe - you should let her go first... it may help; try to be patient as she describes the angst from her perspective...



I am glad you refrained from throwing eggs and slashing tires; coming on here and venting must have offered a wee bit of relief? I hope so! Good luck!
Don't let her get to you. She's probably an old, bitter woman who just needs something to complain about so she's attacking you and your children. As long as you know your children are safe and playing at a good volume outdoors, then you have nothing to worry about. Their children...they are going to be loud and playful outdoors. Just stand up to her and tell her how you feel and how you feel targeted by her.
well i dont have much experience in this but i can always try,



You should tell your neighbor what is on your mind. If she refuses to talk, insist on it. If you cannot get your ideas through, talk to other people. Get other neighbours who dont have that problem and ask them politely to help you. Get people to help solve your problem so your "neighbor" will understand what is his/her own problem when other people besides you tell them what is wrong.



If the problem still persists, talk to your condo association, tell them your problem and have the higher authorities take over.



(im sorry i may have totally answered this question wrong, theres alot to read and i probably didnt read it right. if i didnt im sorry! )



good luck =) hope this helped
What you should do is to take the criticism to heart and stop your kids from being a nuisance. Stop denying that they are nuisances and stop blaming others for this letter and claiming your complete innocence. And then you might be able to do something constructive.



The very idea that you'd think of "egging" her house or slashing tires (joking or not) shows that you are quite immature and most difficult to get along with. SAYING that you are attentive and being attentive are two completely different things. I'd say you'd better be out there with your kids the next few months, and actually watching what is going on instead of whining and blaming all the problems on others.
Good call not to slash tires or egg her house...that would prove her point.



I say, invite her to tea and tell her there has been a huge misunderstanding about who's children she's upset with and you'd like to talk. Listen to her "side" as well and try to be honest about what your son may have gotten up to.



I'm not saying you aren't attentive. I"m saying he's a kid and kids do things sometimes and you really may not be aware.



Also, talk to the neighbour that helped your son learn football- there has to be more to it than him just listening to the older woman. If he stopped talking to you there is a reason.



Be open and honest and willling to listen. That's all you really can do especially since you did nothing about the first false complaints. I hope things get better for you all.
Too much to read, sounds like a lot of words for people incorrectly accusing your kids of being the noisemakers. That was all you really needed to say. Goodness, you sound like a high school girl. Accordingly, i am going to give you the same advice: get over it, it probably is more your fault than you want to believe, it always is with questions like this, isn't it?